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May 17, 2012

Sandra asks…

What can I do differently to get a job? Any job!?

Ok, this is long, and I apologize ahead of time. I am 21, recently graduated from college, and just came back from studying abroad in Paris on June 1st. The main problem I have is with my mother. She has threatened me with the, after July, if you don’t have a job, you need to do things exactly as I tell you, because you can’t be in my home eating my food, etc. etc. She never pressured me about having a job during college, even though I did look, but now that I am out of college, she has been treating me like I am a leech who has been lounging for 2 years! My graduation ceremony was in the beginning of May, but my program did not finish until the end of the month, so maybe she is stuck in the mind frame that I have been out of school since the beginning of May. I don’t know, but I do know I have never wanted to be out so badly in my life. We got into an argument recently over getting my hair edges trimmed! I cut my hair last December because I am tired of relaxing my hair, but she has not accepted it, even though she tries to act like she has. She is obsessed with finding some product that will make my hair look all the way curly and not like a small afro (I have thick, tiny curls that frizz in the heat). If she was so concerned about my finding a job, why has she spent 98.5 percent of her energy in concentrating on my hair and not on potential jobs or interview tips?? We have not spoken for almost a week. She goes through this thing where when she is mad she does not talk to the person she is mad at. So I am essentially trapped in my room when she gets back from work, because the only other place to go is the living room, which is where she watches her soaps from the day (we live in an apartment). When I first got back she was joking about her doing it to my grandmother as a teenager. She did this stuff as a teenager, but has yet to stop! I tried to make convo twice and she came back with an attitude, so I have just given up.

I want to go back to DC, because I spent my freshman year there, before I transferred back to my home state, but I can’t move there without any money (btw I had to finance my entire program on my own). I have NEVER asked her for money, EVER. I weigh around 100 pounds at 5’1, so I don’t eat her out of house and home (I have even started rationing my portions so it doesn’t look like I am eating alot, plus I feel guilty about eating the food when I’m not working). When she moved to Atlanta, she took out a loan on her car. She told me that she was determined to get me a car no matter what, so her idea was to get a new one, and with my student part time job, pay for her loan. I basically paid for her move down to Atlanta, even though she has been b****ing about it since she moved down here. I clean up the house, and I am looking for a job. I don’t care about getting a dream job here, not in this economy and in this city. I have four years worth of administrative and clerical work from my other jobs. I have applied to a couple of jobs, and 7 temporary agencies (2 this afternoon). I have even applied to Sears, Babies R US…just to find some form of income. I just came from an interview today with a temp agency, but I still feel so discouraged. I have been hearing the average times of finding a job after graduation is six months. Does this still apply for someone who will take any office job with a low salary requirement, who will even do a one day temp job? I just need some income to get her off my back, and to start saving to get out. Outside of applying, sending my resume and cover letters, following up, and basically stalking companies, I don’t know what to do.

HELP! I have two weeks left before she takes over, and I have NO IDEA what that means with her current behavior. I just want to be able to search for a job without this problem, but since that is not possible, what can I do differently to get any job???
Umm, so two things. I am not trying to stay in my mother’s apartment for the rest of my life. I have been planning to move to DC, work a few years there, and then get my doctorate. I originally wanted to get a job here, while searching for a full-time perm in DC. I was going to save up the money I had to pay rent, furniture, etc. once I finally got to DC (max in a year). I am doing the EXACT same things that everyone else who is unemployed is doing, but I have not gotten any leads. Which is why I asked this question. I don’t see how my mother is baby-sitting me. I just wanted advice or tips on how to get some kind of income to move out quicker. Btw, I am a female.

Administrator answers:

So here are what I see as your options:

Move out or stay with your mom

To move out, go out right now, today and find a job of any sort.
Stand on your own, learn to do what you have to do besides cope with your mother and hide in your room.

One of the best things you could do is decide what you want to do in your life and do it. If you don’t want to stay where you are, move, start over and quit complaining. Until you take your life in your hands, you will be miserable.

Good luck – and go get ‘em.

Donald asks…

What can I do differently to get a job? Any job!?

Ok, this is long, and I apologize ahead of time. I am 21, recently graduated from college, and just came back from studying abroad in Paris on June 1st. The main problem I have is with my mother. She has threatened me with the, after July, if you don’t have a job, you need to do things exactly as I tell you, because you can’t be in my home eating my food, etc. etc. She never pressured me about having a job during college, even though I did look, but now that I am out of college, she has been treating me like I am a leech who has been lounging for 2 years! My graduation ceremony was in the beginning of May, but my program did not finish until the end of the month, so maybe she is stuck in the mind frame that I have been out of school since the beginning of May. I don’t know, but I do know I have never wanted to be out so badly in my life. We got into an argument recently over getting my hair edges trimmed! I cut my hair last December because I am tired of relaxing my hair, but she has not accepted it, even though she tries to act like she has. She is obsessed with finding some product that will make my hair look all the way curly and not like a small afro (I have thick, tiny curls that frizz in the heat). If she was so concerned about my finding a job, why has she spent 98.5 percent of her energy in concentrating on my hair and not on potential jobs or interview tips?? We have not spoken for almost a week. She goes through this thing where when she is mad she does not talk to the person she is mad at. So I am essentially trapped in my room when she gets back from work, because the only other place to go is the living room, which is where she watches her soaps from the day (we live in an apartment). When I first got back she was joking about her doing it to my grandmother as a teenager. She did this stuff as a teenager, but has yet to stop! I tried to make convo twice and she came back with an attitude, so I have just given up.

I want to go back to DC, because I spent my freshman year there, before I transferred back to my home state, but I can’t move there without any money (btw I had to finance my entire program on my own). I have NEVER asked her for money, EVER. I weigh around 100 pounds at 5’1, so I don’t eat her out of house and home (I have even started rationing my portions so it doesn’t look like I am eating alot, plus I feel guilty about eating the food when I’m not working). When she moved to Atlanta, she took out a loan on her car. She told me that she was determined to get me a car no matter what, so her idea was to get a new one, and with my student part time job, pay for her loan. I basically paid for her move down to Atlanta, even though she has been b****ing about it since she moved down here. I clean up the house, and I am looking for a job. I don’t care about getting a dream job here, not in this economy and in this city. I have four years worth of administrative and clerical work from my other jobs. I have applied to a couple of jobs, and 7 temporary agencies (2 this afternoon). I have even applied to Sears, Babies R US…just to find some form of income. I just came from an interview today with a temp agency, but I still feel so discouraged. I have been hearing the average times of finding a job after graduation is six months. Does this still apply for someone who will take any office job with a low salary requirement, who will even do a one day temp job? I just need some income to get her off my back, and to start saving to get out. Outside of applying, sending my resume and cover letters, following up, and basically stalking companies, I don’t know what to do.

HELP! I have two weeks left before she takes over, and I have NO IDEA what that means with her current behavior. I just want to be able to search for a job without this problem, but since that is not possible, what can I do differently to get any job???

Administrator answers:

Why don’t you look for a waitress job? Just walk into any motel or restaurant and ask to speak to the manager. If they’re looking, they could hire you right off the street. That’s how it works with restaurants. Just wear something nice and have a good attitude. You don’t need experience. If they like you, they’ll hire you without it.

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