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September 15, 2012

Lizzie asks…

Why do alot of women date badboys on her early years and when she gets old she wants the nice guy at the end?

I’m just saying its dumb! There was a girl who i liked 3 years ago who had a choice between me and some other guy (the guys she ended up marrying). I took her out to dinner and told her if she made up her mind who she wanted to be with. I choose the other guy, the next year they got married and had two kids! He was working as a bus driver who got layed off his job. She ended up working at a coffee house because she couldnt finish up her schooling with both of them not working! He was the babysitter and didnt bother looking for another Job. One day she came home from work and find him in bed with another woman red-handed. Him and the other woman ended up moving to Miami leaving her all along with the two kids! So yesterday she comes to my house knocking, i haven’t even seen her since she told me she didn’t want to be with me. I welcome her inside and she goes on this crying crap saying how sorry she did that to me and NOW wants to have a relationship with me (Basically HELP ME WITH THESE TWO KIDS THATS NOT EVEN MINE). She is about to lose her apt because she cant pay the rent and wants to the kids and her in with me?? She must be on drugs, i told her hell no and if she needs to help to go to her family back east! We live in Los Angeles, but why do women always want the niceguys when things dont go their way with the badboys? Its not fair to us! We are NOT captain save a hoe!

Administrator answers:

I don’t know why women do that and I can’t answer why guys do that either. I have always been attracted to the nice guys, but they always seem to be taken.

I was totally in love with a doctor and we had been dating for about 12 months. He always told me that I was one hot piece of ass that was so sexy from the lingerie I wear, lacy stuff and such. One day he tells me he is getting back together with his ex girlfriend that he had his daughter with. The daughter is 19 yrs old and they hadn’t been together for 10 years. So I am heart broken, I would have married this man that is how much I loved him.

I didn’t date for about a year, then I started dating again and found a couple of jerks during this time. I was giving up on dating when I met my current boyfriend who is the sweetest man there is. He is a nerdy IT computer tech that is totally hot to me. Well we had been dating for about 3 months and I moved in with him. After a year the Doctor sends me an email saying that he wants to see me and get back together. Go figure, a year later after he and his ex don’t work out and I was dumped by him he wants me to come back to him and tells me that he misses me so much. Go figure this…he tells me how much he loves me and what a big mistake he made and how sorry he is.

I told him there is no way I am giving up the guy I have that does everything for me and treats me like a princess. He opens the door to his house, stands aside to let me walk in first. This is his home he does this for me. In return I will do anything for my boyfriend that he asks. And mind that we haven’t had our first spat, argument, fight, disagreement or anything. We have been together for 3.5 years.

So there are men out there that are just as devious and users just as there are women like the one who dumped you, the same as the one who dumped me. But in time you will find the perfect woman for you. Don’t settler at all and you will have your wish list fulfilled. I met my current boyfriend on match.com and I had wrote a 2 page of what I expect from a man and that I would not take anything less then the demands I had written out, in exchange for having these demands fulfilled, I would do the same as I was asking of him. My boyfriend loved that I spelled out everything I wanted and everything I was willing to give in return. It took me 30 years to find this man and for this man to find his woman he wanted.

Good luck and remember not to settle, keep your expectations and you will find her.

Chris asks…

Why do alot of women date badboys on her early years and when she gets old she wants the nice guy at the end?

I’m just saying its dumb! There was a girl who i liked 3 years ago who had a choice between me and some other guy (the guys she ended up marrying). I took her out to dinner and told her if she made up her mind who she wanted to be with. I choose the other guy, the next year they got married and had two kids! He was working as a bus driver who got layed off his job. She ended up working at a coffee house because she couldnt finish up her schooling with both of them not working! He was the babysitter and didnt bother looking for another Job. One day she came home from work and find him in bed with another woman red-handed. Him and the other woman ended up moving to Miami leaving her all along with the two kids! So yesterday she comes to my house knocking, i haven’t even seen her since she told me she didn’t want to be with me. I welcome her inside and she goes on this crying crap saying how sorry she did that to me and NOW wants to have a relationship with me (Basically HELP ME WITH THESE TWO KIDS THATS NOT EVEN MINE). She is about to lose her apt because she cant pay the rent and wants to the kids and her in with me?? She must be on drugs, i told her hell no and if she needs to help to go to her family back east! We live in Los Angeles, but why do women always want the niceguys when things dont go their way with the badboys? Its not fair to us! We are NOT captain save a hoe!

Administrator answers:

Girls are very naive about guys when they are young. They do not realize that these guys are just giving them a line of baloney. They fall for the bull that a guy gives when he has done something wrong and wants back in. Half of them do not even realize when they are being cheated on. Chalk it up to not being as savvy as older women that have learned not to just trust guys at their word. They generally learn by having their heart broken a few times. I find this happens a lot more with girls that do not have brothers that are close to their age. They just do not see men for what they are. They think men are like women, which is so far from being true. They do not understand the difference between the “badboy” and the guy that is sincere. Those “badboys” just know how to dish the lines out and how to pick out which girls will fall for them. I have seen some “badgirls” learn how to do the same thing.

She would probably be damaged by all of the lies and being mistreated by him anyway. You would end up paying the price for his mistakes. Tell her when she gets he life together, and gets some therapy to help her get past the abuse, you would like to take her out. Tell her, that until then, you are not interest in getting caught up in all of that drama.

Once she is divorced, settled the property, is getting child support, and has settled into a new place with the kids, you may find it easier to be a part of her life. Right now, there is nothing but drama going on in her life.

Just chalk it up to being naive and thinking with their hearts instead of their heads!!

Paul asks…

Why do alot of women date badboys on her early years and when she gets old she wants the nice guy at the end?

I’m just saying its dumb! There was a girl who i liked 3 years ago who had a choice between me and some other guy (the guys she ended up marrying). I took her out to dinner and told her if she made up her mind who she wanted to be with. I choose the other guy, the next year they got married and had two kids! He was working as a bus driver who got layed off his job. She ended up working at a coffee house because she couldnt finish up her schooling with both of them not working! He was the babysitter and didnt bother looking for another Job. One day she came home from work and find him in bed with another woman red-handed. Him and the other woman ended up moving to Miami leaving her all along with the two kids! So yesterday she comes to my house knocking, i haven’t even seen her since she told me she didn’t want to be with me. I welcome her inside and she goes on this crying crap saying how sorry she did that to me and NOW wants to have a relationship with me (Basically HELP ME WITH THESE TWO KIDS THATS NOT EVEN MINE). She is about to lose her apt because she cant pay the rent and wants to the kids and her in with me?? She must be on drugs, i told her hell no and if she needs to help to go to her family back east! We live in Los Angeles, but why do women always want the niceguys when things dont go their way with the badboys? Its not fair to us!

Administrator answers:

The same reason why men like dating women like that its vice versa

Daniel asks…

Why do alot of women date badboys on her early years and when she gets old she wants the nice guy at the end?

I’m just saying its dumb! There was a girl who i liked 3 years ago who had a choice between me and some other guy (the guys she ended up marrying). I took her out to dinner and told her if she made up her mind who she wanted to be with. I choose the other guy, the next year they got married and had two kids! He was working as a bus driver who got layed off his job. She ended up working at a coffee house because she couldnt finish up her schooling with both of them not working! He was the babysitter and didnt bother looking for another Job. One day she came home from work and find him in bed with another woman red-handed. Him and the other woman ended up moving to Miami leaving her all along with the two kids! So yesterday she comes to my house knocking, i haven’t even seen her since she told me she didn’t want to be with me. I welcome her inside and she goes on this crying crap saying how sorry she did that to me and NOW wants to have a relationship with me (Basically HELP ME WITH THESE TWO KIDS THATS NOT EVEN MINE). She is about to lose her apt because she cant pay the rent and wants to the kids and her in with me?? She must be on drugs, i told her hell no and if she needs to help to go to her family back east! We live in Los Angeles, but why do women always want the niceguys when things dont go their way with the badboys? Its not fair to us! We are NOT captain save a hoe!

Administrator answers:

There’s something a bit exciting and sexy about the bad boys, that little element of danger can turn girls on when they are young and immature.
Once they have been messed around enough they start to realise that a nice man, who is actually quite grown-up himself, is going to make them far happier. The woman needs to be emotionally mature herself to realise this.

This woman sounds like quite a fool, to think you will pick up this other guy’s mess. It looks to me as if maybe she still hasn’t grown up, but just thinks you are.. Well, as you said, captain save a hoe.

Some girls always go for the nice guys from the start, adn some learn faster than others. I dated one bad boy and realised that was a losing game. You just need to learn how to identify the girls who have got it all figured out properly.

Susan asks…

Why do alot of women date badboys on her early years and when she gets old she wants the nice guy at the end?

I’m just saying its dumb! There was a girl who i liked 3 years ago who had a choice between me and some other guy (the guys she ended up marrying). I took her out to dinner and told her if she made up her mind who she wanted to be with. I choose the other guy, the next year they got married and had two kids! He was working as a bus driver who got layed off his job. She ended up working at a coffee house because she couldnt finish up her schooling with both of them not working! He was the babysitter and didnt bother looking for another Job. One day she came home from work and find him in bed with another woman red-handed. Him and the other woman ended up moving to Miami leaving her all along with the two kids! So yesterday she comes to my house knocking, i haven’t even seen her since she told me she didn’t want to be with me. I welcome her inside and she goes on this crying crap saying how sorry she did that to me and NOW wants to have a relationship with me (Basically HELP ME WITH THESE TWO KIDS THATS NOT EVEN MINE). She is about to lose her apt because she cant pay the rent and wants to the kids and her in with me?? She must be on drugs, i told her hell no and if she needs to help to go to her family back east! We live in Los Angeles, but why do women always want the niceguys when things dont go their way with the badboys? Its not fair to us!

Administrator answers:

If you don’t want this young lady, then let her off easy. You don’t have to be ugly. Instead of wasting your time being bitter about a rejection that happened three years ago, worry about what you are doing and who you would like to be with. It is her loss and not yours. Just hope that when she meets the next wonderful man that comes her way, then she will treat him like gold.

I am a nice guy and have no problems getting women. I understand that a lot of young women like the bad boys. Unlike you, I don’t get bitter and get my panties in a wad if I lose a woman to a supposed bad boy. If she would rather have a bad boy, then she gets what she deserves. Besides, if you are a nice guy like you claim to be, then you aren’t getting angry and bitter when you get rejected. Nice guys don’t take rejections personally.

Donald asks…

Question about difficult tenants?

I own a triplex in Los Angeles under rent control, and I’ve been dealing with problem tenants for quite sometime. This year they’ve violated their lease by having a pet. I gave them a total of 3 notices for them to rid of the animal. They eventually did…when they felt like it. They’ve been a nuisance, specifically this man, who has threatened me and my other tenants multiple times. They sublease the apartment to others, and constantly cause property damages to my apartment and theirs. I live in one of the units, and they live in the unit above mines. I don’t have one working ceiling light in the living room or kitchen due to the constant jumping their children indulge in. When and if i tell them something about it, they get mad and curse at me. Currently there’s a leak going on that they never told me about and now its made a hole in my kitchen ceiling. They were two months late on their rent, and i gave them a 3 day notice 3 days ago. They brought the rent to me today at 9:00 p.m when i specifically stated my office hours were from 9-5 pm. But along with the money orders, they brought a letter writing down allllll the things they wanted me to “fix”. Beginning with changing the floor that their dog damaged. Thats why i don’t let them have pets, because they then expect me to pay the damage caused by them -_-. Then they wanted to change the window screens, when not too long ago i changed them and paid 10 grand to change the windows in my whole property. I had them sign a letter stating that if the windows were to be damaged, it would be on their own accord. they signed it, and a few months later, their kids had punched a hole in a window screen already. The list goes on, its ridiculous. My question is, how do I charge THEM for the damages done to their property AND mine!? They’ll probably call inspection, ruin the apt. a bit more, and then i’ll be liable. I want to evade that. All answers appreciated.
Multiple opportunities? HA with rent control, i practically have 3 reasons as to why i can kick them out without giving them 18 grand, since they’ve been living here longer than i have. Non payment of rent being at the top of the list. However, my lawyer advised me that i should take the money if it was brought to me, which it was. I don’t meet up with my lawyer until this upcoming Monday, and its been biting me. Seriously, what is up with the system? My next move, if i can’t rid of them, is to sell my property and move. Didn’t think dealing with tenants would’ve been this bad.
@karin C tried negotiating with them once. They want $8,000.00 per kid. They have 3. Legally, i’m entitled to give them $18,000.00 for the number of years they have living here. However, that’s money I don’t even have for myself right now, so its out of the question.
@ricardo this is a month to month tenancy.
@flower yes i can give them a 60 day notice, but due to rent control, i would still have to list the reasons why i want them to evict. Sometimes, if the judge finds the reasons aren’t valid enough, the tenants win the case. Then i might be obligated to pay their attorney fees, etc. Even non payment of rent does not guarantee that they will be ordered to evict, since it’s their first penalty for practically the biggest reason i can evict them. I will try to do anything in my hands though, i want them out.

Administrator answers:

This is partly your fault, I am sorry to say – you did not have to accept the late payment at 9pm but you did and hence you teach them that what you say or write means very little. You need to get out of this business – you are too soft and too personal – you take what they do as personal issues rather then business issues. Hire a property management firm to handle these issues – they do it all the time and then you are removed and they have the business office – it is not longer you at home. Yes it will cost but less than the toll this type of situation is causing you.

If a tenant threatened you the police should have been called on the spot You seem to have had many opportunities to begin eviction proceedings and this is what should have happened every time they violate terms. Act on the repair request – you cannot ignore it so schedule an inspection and do video and take at least one other person with you. Then and sent a certified letter informing them of the items not covered and that they are responsible for. Let them know of any violations noted and inform them of the cost of all repairs not covered as normal wear.

This type of tenant will never be productive and the sooner you lose them the better. If seems to me that there will be ongoing opportunities to find them in violation of their lease

Michael asks…

who understands baseball? i have 4 signed baseball caps?

i rent out apts in los angeles and my last tenant went to jail because he was doing something illegal so i had to clean out my apt for the next tenants. i found 4 signed L.A angels caps…i cant read the signatures…looks like 2 are the same signatures though..here are the hats..are they worth anything maybe?

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Administrator answers:

I believe Matt is correct. The 2 like signatures appear to be Bobby Grich. I also believe the fourth one may be Mike Scoscia.

Linda asks…

Why do alot of women date badboys in her early years and when she gets old she wants the nice guy at the end?

I’m just saying its dumb! There was a girl who i liked 3 years ago who had a choice between me and some other guy (the guys she ended up marrying). I took her out to dinner and told her if she made up her mind who she wanted to be with. I choose the other guy, the next year they got married and had two kids! He was working as a bus driver who got layed off his job. She ended up working at a coffee house because she couldnt finish up her schooling with both of them not working! He was the babysitter and didnt bother looking for another Job. One day she came home from work and find him in bed with another woman red-handed. Him and the other woman ended up moving to Miami leaving her all along with the two kids! So yesterday she comes to my house knocking, i haven’t even seen her since she told me she didn’t want to be with me. I welcome her inside and she goes on this crying crap saying how sorry she did that to me and NOW wants to have a relationship with me (Basically HELP ME WITH THESE TWO KIDS THATS NOT EVEN MINE). She is about to lose her apt because she cant pay the rent and wants to the kids and her in with me?? She must be on drugs, i told her hell no and if she needs to help to go to her family back east! We live in Los Angeles, but why do women always want the niceguys when things dont go their way with the badboys? Its not fair to us! We are NOT captain save a hoe!

Administrator answers:

The bad boys are usually confident, or at least know how to fake it. In the early years, a lot of the “nice guys” just look like wimps.

Later in life, a lot of the bad boy types can’t hold a candle to the earning power of the nice guy types, and at that point (eh, early to mid 30s?) the former nice guy looks like a better provider.

Also, the ladies get burnt by a few bad boys in the process.

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