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August 28, 2012

Daniel asks…

3 yrs later and ex hubs still stalking?

me. I’ve moved on but he hasnt so I want to move to Florida but daughter wants to stay w/dad?
Two years and I still can’t find a job in NJ, also i’m not on speaking terms w/my stepdad who remarried 1 yr after mom passed away. Not talking to my half-sis because of this either. I rent the upstairs apt from my stepdad for $1000, so it’s very uncomfortable now I can’t afford it anymore. I have a fully paid condo in Florida and am contemplating moving there and starting fresh. Can find a lower paying job since I won’t have a mortgage and live in peace. My 18 year old is ready to go but my 13 yr old doesn’t want to go (she’ll miss her cousins, friends, schools). her dad and i have joint custody so if I leave it will be without her . we don’t get along and he will make it very difficult, maybe even file for full custody. I am feeling sick at the thought of leaving her, but can’t afford to live here. help?!

Administrator answers:

Let her stay with her dad. She’s old enough to know but have her visit you in florida.

I think a change in scenery will do you some good.

Paul asks…

Will leaving my daughter be a huge mistake?

divorced almost 4 yrs. I’ve moved on but he hasnt. still follows me and watches… creepy. have a restraining order, but he hasnt “done” anything, still I want to move to Florida but daughter wants to stay w/dad?
Two years and I still can’t find a job in NJ, also i’m not on speaking terms w/my stepdad who remarried 1 yr after mom passed away. Not talking to my half-sis because of this either. I rent the upstairs apt from my stepdad for $1000, so it’s very uncomfortable now I can’t afford it anymore. I have a fully paid condo in Florida and am contemplating moving there and starting fresh. Can find a lower paying job since I won’t have a mortgage and live in peace. My 18 year old is ready to go but my 13 yr old doesn’t want to go (she’ll miss her cousins, friends, schools). her dad and i have joint custody so if I leave it will be without her . we don’t get along and he will make it very difficult, maybe even file for full custody. I am feeling sick at the thought of leaving her, but can’t afford to live here. help?!
I trust him w/my daughter, he is a good provider, and his mother lives with him. His problem is with me.

Administrator answers:

This is about the 5th time you have posted this. Stop feeling guilty and let her stay behind. After she visits you a couple of times, she will probably move down,too.

William asks…

is leaving my daughter make me a bad mom?

Divorced almost 4 yrs ago. I’ve moved on but he hasnt. still follows me, watches me. very creepy. I have a restraining order, but he really hasnt “done” anything. just creepy. so I want to move to Florida but daughter wants to stay w/dad?
Two years and I still can’t find a job in NJ, also i’m not on speaking terms w/my stepdad who remarried 1 yr after mom passed away. Not talking to my half-sis because of this either. I rent the upstairs apt from my stepdad for $1000, so it’s very uncomfortable now I can’t afford it anymore. I have a fully paid condo in Florida and am contemplating moving there and starting fresh. Can find a lower paying job since I won’t have a mortgage and live in peace. My 18 year old is ready to go but my 13 yr old doesn’t want to go (she’ll miss her cousins, friends, schools). her dad and i have joint custody so if I leave it will be without her . we don’t get along and he will make it very difficult, maybe even file for full custody. I am feeling sick at the thought of leaving her, but can’t afford to live here. help?!

Administrator answers:

You should go – you must do what is best for yourself first!
If you cannot provide well for yourself where you are now – you cannot provide well for the girl.
So you need to go where you will be able to live best. Your daughter has the choice to go or stay.
Keep all options with your daughter open!
She may well decide to come live with you – especially if you have her come visit you in Fla in the middle of winter when it feels great to live there!

Carol asks…

Does leaving my daughter make me a bad mom?

divorced almost 4 yrs. I’ve moved on but he hasnt. still follows me and watches… creepy. have a restraining order, but he hasnt “done” anything, still I want to move to Florida but daughter wants to stay w/dad?
Two years and I still can’t find a job in NJ, also i’m not on speaking terms w/my stepdad who remarried 1 yr after mom passed away. Not talking to my half-sis because of this either. I rent the upstairs apt from my stepdad for $1000, so it’s very uncomfortable now I can’t afford it anymore. I have a fully paid condo in Florida and am contemplating moving there and starting fresh. Can find a lower paying job since I won’t have a mortgage and live in peace. My 18 year old is ready to go but my 13 yr old doesn’t want to go (she’ll miss her cousins, friends, schools). her dad and i have joint custody so if I leave it will be without her . we don’t get along and he will make it very difficult, maybe even file for full custody. I am feeling sick at the thought of leaving her, but can’t afford to live here. help?!

Administrator answers:

You ARE in quite a predicament with one heck of a LOT of problems in your life & I know many of them do hurt you. I couldn’t help but think a lot of my life as I read your story with in a way is/was similar. I don’t know IF you’re angry with your step dad because of remarrying so soon after loosing your mother?! My Dad & Mom had a VERY loving relationship, never once d my sister & I hear them argue! He wa a minister, so was around the home a lot. They were aways hugging & had a thing of patting one another’s bottoms, My Mom got cancer & we lost her quickly only 6 wks., after being diagnosed! My Dad was devastated & since they had been so close & in love for 24 yrs,, he was at a total loss without her or with out a significant other in his life, He NEEDED someone to share his life with, someon to love.. Shortly after, he dated 2 women & one of them just clicked. She too was an ordained minister & never married before, They fell in love & married fairly soon after Mom was gone, Actually, my sister & I were happy for him! She loved him dearly, took to both us girls, said she would NEVER take our Mother’s place nor try to or want to. But she did call us her Daughters. They lived a happy loving life of also 24 yrs, when we lost Dad at age 85. She was a bit younger by just a couple yrs. But lived to be 95! She too missed my Dad terribly & he’s all she talked about. Nonetheless, we were GLAD she was put in Dad’s life for a reason, this we truly feel/felt as it did help to heal his broken lonely life. So possibly IF this is the reasons for the hard feelings, you just may look at them in different lite,That too could just have some bearing on the step sister too, I don’t know. I KNOW you are between a rock & hard pace with your living arrangements that are NO FAULT on/against you. You MUST do as you’re forced to do with the money situation, You really don’t have a choice about that. My ex & I split & divorced due to alcoholism on both our parts. He got sober, I didn’t, so I left our home with my 2 adult children 20 & 21, BUT I also had a 13 yr. Old son too. It so hurt, leaving him, not being there to get him off to school, packing his lunches as I had for his sister & brother, Some mornings I even ran over there to get him off I felt so much guilt over that, I met & remarried another alcoholic, but this time I got sober & have been for over 20 yrs, now, I DID make amends to ALL I had hurt.and of course to my grown 13 yr, old I had left, Told him how sorry I wasn’t there for him & at times I STILL have pangs of guilt over it, He told me, Mom, it just made me a stronger person! My ex had remarried & my youngest went & bgt. A trailer for himself! He is a happy “kid” who of course is a grown adult now. All our lives have now gotten straightened out now they are all married & we are all happy once again. But I SO can “identify” with your story. Just do what you have to do, & hopefully EVERYTHING WILL turn out for the best for you too…I DO wish you ALL the best, honey…:)

Linda asks…

should i feel guilty reporting someone for welfare fraud?

I live in nj in an apt complex.It is a low income place.
I have custody of my 2 girls,ages 3 and 6.
We are on welfare because i am disabled and waiting for ss to kick in.
Im 47 yrs old and raising my kids alone.
My neighbor 2 doors down is a man with 2 kids,ages 5 and 6 and he too is on welfare.
BUt he moved a girl in whos getting well over 1000.00 a mth on unemployment,and they are buying computers,tvs,bunk beds for kids,because the state pays his rent.
I think its unfair because he can work,hes only 30.
Shes bringing home all that money,no rent,but buying everything up.
Shes flaunting it too.
Its only supposed to be him and his kids because his rent subsidy was based on that.
He pays no rent,the state pays it all.550.00!But she brings in that money!
What do i do?

Administrator answers:

Please don’t, you don’t fully know his situation. He may have a record or something and it may be hard for him to find work. Even if he can work, don’t just mind your Business. I know this one woman who had to do welfare fraud, because she was barely making ends meet. She was convicted and got a criminal record, it was later hard for her to find a job. Let it be, WHAT GOES AROUND, COMES AROUND.

Mark asks…

NEED LOOPHOLE TO GET RID OF TENANT IN NEWARK, NEW JERSEY?

We purchased a bank owned reo 2 family property in Newark,NJ. The property came occupied with a tenant paying very low rent. She is paying $850 for an apt. that is worth $1,600-$1,650. She claimed she wanted to buy the property, but as soon as we gave a contract she started playing games. She does not have a lease or anything. I was thinking I would transfer the deed to my personal name or to someone else’s, and evict her on the groudns that I would like to live there, would that work?? what other ideas or options do I have?
do you have any info on this?
would I be able to claim that I am evicting her on the grounds that I want to live there myself ( I now I can do this), and then since I am not going to live there, transfer the deed to a new entity, so they can’t come after me, would this work?
legally in nj, I know you can only raising someones rent more than 10-12%, is considered unreasonable in court, and I would not be able to, as her rent is currently $850 and market rate if $1600

Administrator answers:

As the new owner, you have the right to set the rent price. This is done at time of lease renewal. Your new tenant has a month to month so you can theoretically change the rent every month if you wanted to. If your tenant does not like it, she has the option to move.

Laura asks…

relocate – where to start?

In NJ I own a home, 3 kids and a dog and money in savings.

Looking to relocate to either Midland TX or Raleigh NC but I dont know how to start
1 – sell our home
2 – rent for now
then search for jobs
sell and move and then look for a job..
or find a job – have one of us move – get an apt then sell home then move

any advice..

Administrator answers:

Get a job first.

Then move

George asks…

Tenant on Tenant Harrasment??!? Or is she just crazy?

Recently my husband went missing. In the end, he had gotten mugged, hit on the head and dumped. He was told if you go home you’ll find ur wife and child dead. He went into a kind of shock, and didn’t come home for 2 weeks. When he did come home finally, he looked *and smelled* like he hadn’t eaten for 2 weeks and had been living in bushes and run down buildings.
While he was gone, my neighbor was telling me stories about how she had contact with him, how he ran off with some girl to NJ and all this crazy shit. A LOT of crazy shit.
Now that he’s back, she’s telling him I had guys up in our apt. and i had sex for money to pay the rent. In reality, my father gave me a check for the rent, so I wouldn’t lose my home. She tells him that my new job is actually me being a whore, and i had to show my husband my Hours sheet to prove i actually had work.
I never should have listened to her before. None of what she ever said made sense. But now I want to know what to do to get rid of her.
With me showing my husband my hours, it was more me showing him . I had to show him, he didn’t ask for them. He came to pick me up on my first night and she barraded him with all this “information” about me being a whore, and that I’d be walking down a street to meet him, rather than coming from the place where i work. I needed to show him that, it’s not that he asked for it.
I have barely even looked at her since my husband came home, because then it was obvious all she said when he was missing was lies. He could have been found if she had kept quiet. >^<
She doesn't know how I payed my rent *i asked my father for the money* and she knows nothing of my new job. She’s coming up with absolute shit and turning and telling my husband. Just like when he was missing and i was going thru it, he said, he knows it’s all bull, but then it sticks in ur head and you can’t get rid of it. >^<
I'm calling my LL today and telling him, and maybe pressing to get her evicted. should I do that?

Administrator answers:

You ignore her. If she continues to harass you, call the police. Tell your landlord you are having difficulties with her – your landlord may be well aware of her mental state!

Mandy asks…

Can you get fired for moving further away from work?

I applied @ an apt complex in PA but work in NJ which I liked and it’s 60 miles one way from my job, and would naturally have to get up to leave the house by 6:20 AM so the traffic wouldn’t be too bad. I timed it one morning when I was down there staying over at a friends and it was about an hour and 10 min.

I’m not a hospital worker, fireman, cop, etc. where being close is of the essence.

I already put HR down as the contact. Wanted to rent there b/c 9 times out of 10 I’m always going to the area for recreation/friends/bf and it’s cheaper to live there.

Probably being stupid but, and sitting here nevous waiting. Wondered what others thought.
Forgot to mention/important:

I have 5500.00 in the bank to account for the gas, and yes, this is part of a bigger plan to get a job closer to where I live, but want to hold on to my job for at least 6-7 months, they give out bonuses and can get 10% of my salary.

Can’t get an apt w/o a perm job, can’t get job w/o being local to it. This is a stepping stone.

Just worried b/c for now, I need my job!

Administrator answers:

Noo i think its a great idea!
If you enjoy where you live, and are determined to
leave at 6:20a.m. Every morning, then go for it!

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