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April 14, 2012

Donald asks…

Should you divorce your husband over in-law problems?

There is a current family feud going on right now of my entertaining my husband’s sister, husband & 2 kids in a studio apt. Keep in mind that his sister’s husband ripped my mom off $5,000 on her household repairs he partially/poorly started leaving incomplete & still wanting another $500 to complete his mess (he told her off on the phone). My mom demanded for them to not stay in my home. My husband told his sister they were denied access and now he is lashing out to me and his sisters about my mom(he lived with my mom rent free with cooked meals for 6yrs). It is funny because my mom had problems with her ex-husbands sister and things were never the same. My mom is now putting all types of ideas in my head encouraging me to leave him. Before this mess I didn’t have problems with his family or him since he has started working. What must I do? Still communicate to his in-laws when they visit? Stick around when he has a hissy fit about my mom and speaks badly?
I set up the home renovation deal and his sister called me a few names and I don’t think my mom and I deserved it we trusted them and paid in advance. My husband didn’t want to be caught in the middle but I told him I’d leave him because of his attitude in defending his family and arguing about my mom causing us to break apart when his in-laws didn’t think twice about it. Am I making the right decision?
We are also living in another state away from the family. But now the in-laws are visiting – how am I suppose to act like nothing happened to make my hubby happy?

Administrator answers:

It seem you have already put yourself and your husband in the middle.
I don’t now what the work your BIL did was but it comes down to this. If the work was reasonable for the money then it was just that.
You are of the opinion as is your mother that she was ripped off. Are you two the only ones who think that? What does your husband say?
You need to determine that he either did or did not do the work properly.
As it is $5000.00 is not much for consruction these days. You are talking about breaking up a marriage for a significant but not all that big amount. Assume for a moment that the wOrk which only ran over 10% took only that 10% to correct, the amount of money we are talking about is $500.00. Do you reallyt want to divorce over $500.00 bucks? I don’t think so.

This is where you need to get some backbone in dealing with all of them. Your mother and your BIL need to sort this out .
Until then you need to keep both at arms length. You did him a favor and your mom thinks you got her ripped off. They both need to get you out of this negotiation. If either of both are unwilling then keep them both away. Mothers can find a thing to complain about for years. You can always apologise for the money problem and tell her you will never help her in anything like this again if $500 is all it takes fopr her to ruin your marriage. As for BIL he needs to be told that your mother is not happy with the work and you thought taht as a contaractor he was going to deal with your mother as a customer and would and not keep you in the mix where the quality of the work is concerned. AS for husband. Its time for him to put a stop to this BS with his family. You did his BIL a favor by suggesting work and they dropped the ball. This is not your problem. Your BIL has not done much to have you cahnge your opinion of his work either has he.
Put the business back into business. Get all the rest to back the hell out of business and then YOU stay out of trying to help any of them where money and work is necessary.
Your husband needs to be able to man up and tell everyone that abused the good favor he had with your mom as well.
If he lived with her for that long rent free and took meals and the like maybe your husband should give your mother a$1000.00 to smooth this over it sounds like he owes her anyway.
Then he needs to tell BIL that it cost him that$1000 for him to warranty the work. That should shut them all up.

Frankly it sounds like your husbands family are users.
The BIL does shoddy work with no conscience and your husband lives rent free for six years under your mothers roof
and cannot find it in himself to straighten this out for her.
Your BIL has taken your recommendation and caused problems which has probably not even resulted in a thank you.
I would keep him away on my own. You should not need your mother to tell you to stay away from that one.

There is a bunch of using going on and not much giving.

You really need to take a hard look at the attitudes around you. Maybe the other situation is that your mother understands that she supported your husband through his tough time and yet he would not even help her straighten out his family. It is possible she has figured out that they are the users.
If your husband starts running off about your mother again you should rmind him that she was the one who supported him for that 6 years and he owes her a debt and a debt of gratitude.
This allegience to “blood” over the people who supported him in young adulthood is misplaced.
That he cannot understand that and act accordingly is cause for leaving. You may be married to a selfish user who has turned on the person who helped him out because he is working now and does not need her money anymore.
We know what happens to biting the hand the fed us.

Ruth asks…

mounted bed , bed in wall , help.. BUILDING !?

Ok i saw this show on HGTV , called Small spaces Big Idea , there was a girl who had a studio and in order to make more space she had this thing that looked like a huge cabinet with 2 doors when she opened it her bed came out . I LOVED this considering that i have a studio apt and it would be a space saver . i looked it up online but there are selling them for $900+ which is to expensive for my budget. Any ideas on how i would be able to build one , my husband is very handy and we would like to know if this is possible to build it looks pretty straight forward , we just need a plan or something ……… help

Administrator answers:

Here’s a link to a few different sites and plans to build a Murphy Bed

http://www.google.com/search?q=murphy+bed+plans&start=0&start=0&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official

Good Luck!

Chris asks…

Live on college campus in an apt. We have wi-fi in the apts. It is weak in bedrooms. Help Please?!?

It’s a 1200 sq ft apt with four bedrooms. In the middle of our apt in the living room its quick! 48 mb/s. I have a macbook and a Dell studio one 19. When i bring the laptop in living room im golden, when in my room its slow as heck! On my dell, windows will show the speed at 5.5 mb/s or even at 1.0 mb/s most of the time. I am getting rid of my macbook soon. Any ideas to make connection in bedroom quicker? Or am i SOL?
Thanks!

Also I log onto the network via bluesocket with a login and password. I have no physical access to a router.

It is a university of wisconsin college school. Any help would be so beneficial. Diff placement of aio, anything. Thanks!

Administrator answers:

Check to see if there are several other strong wireless networks in the vicinity of your apartment. The apartments next door may be running their own wireless network, for example. If so, theirs may be interfering with yours, causing it to be slow (and vice-versa, probably). If you do find other strong wireless networks in the area, try changing the wireless channel of your network. This is done in your wireless access point or router. Experiment with different channels to see if it helps.

David asks…

I live on an on campus apt at college. We have wifi here for internet connection. It’s weak in Bedrooms. Fix?

It’s a 1200 sq ft apt with four bedrooms. In the middle of our apt in the living room its quick! 48 mb/s. I have a macbook and a Dell studio one 19. When i bring the laptop in living room im golden, when in my room its slow as heck! On my dell, windows will show the speed at 5.5 mb/s or even at 1.0 mb/s most of the time. I am getting rid of my macbook soon. Any ideas to make connection in bedroom quicker? Or am i SOL?
Thanks!
Also I log onto the network via bluesocket with a login and password. I have no physical access to a router.

Administrator answers:

Stick one of these in your living room:

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